Falsified Empathy in the Workplace: Staying Aware as a Young Adult with Chronic Illness

by Rifa Tusnia Mona (Dhaka, Bangladesh)

A photo of a brown and grey wolf, staring into the camera. In the background is out-of-focus rock, similar in color to the wolf.

As the eldest child, I had the privilege of watching my siblings grow—my brother, six years younger, and my youngest sister, still just a baby. I was there for them whenever my parents were busy, and gradually, without realizing it, I shifted roles. I went from being the one protected on the inner side of the road to being the one who instinctively walked on the outside, protecting others.

By the time I entered university, I felt ready to take on the world. I was driven, ambitious, and full of confidence. It felt like a long-prepared plane finally lifting off the runway—a moment where possibility stretched endlessly ahead.

But just when I thought my life was about to take flight, Crohn’s disease collided with my plans. I barely managed to finish my degree. Before falling ill, I was certain I could secure a job after graduation; I knew my skills and believed they would carry me through. But chronic illness changed that confidence. In my country, remote work often means vulnerability to exploitation, and without my own computer, even that option felt difficult. What frightened me most, however, was burdening my already struggling family with my medical expenses.

There were many moments when I felt my story might end there. I am not someone who easily expresses pain publicly. Yet Crohn’s forced me to ask for help, to depend on others, and in doing so, I discovered something I had never experienced before—what I now call ‘falsified empathy’.

Falsified empathy is empathy that exists only in theory—not in people’s actions. I once worked remotely for a company in Bangladesh. During a month of hospitalization, I unexpectedly received my full salary. But later, HR informed me it was an error and that my next month’s entire salary was deducted because I was unable to work while being hospitalized the previous month. From the next month, I started working remotely and was getting paid half of the salary I got paid while working on site. I raised a complaint, but nothing changed, so I resigned. Company policy required me to work an additional month to ease the transition, which I did— although minimally.

At the end of that month, I went to collect my final month’s payment. The funny part was, when I went to receive the salary, they said that the HR did some wrong calculation and I will still receive some salary from that month! What they didn’t mention was that the amount coincidentally matched the unpaid salary I had earned from my final month of work. In other words, they framed it as an act of understanding and kindness—when in reality, it was merely the payment I was already entitled to. And before leaving, they made sure I signed a non-disclosure agreement.

I share this very personal experience because young people living with chronic illnesses are often vulnerable—and some individuals or organizations may disguise exploitation behind a mask of compassion. They are the “wolves in disguise.” Staying aware and cautious is essential, especially when life puts you in a weakened position.

That’s all from me for this month. Thank you for reading my story. Next month will be my final article of the year, and I promise to bring you something hopeful and uplifting to close the year on a positive note.

Featured photo by Christina & Peter from Pexels.

Butterfly Effect: My Journey into Designing for Accessibilty

By Natasha Kacharia from the United States

A butterfly flaps its wings in the Amazonian jungle and a typhoon occurs in Europe. Tiny things, according to Chaos theory, are the things that change the world. I am not sure if this applies to the world around us, but what I know for sure is that a sequence of small events shaped my passion for digital design, specifically in the field of accessibility and healthcare.

Growing up, I designed skating dresses. I absolutely loved employing design and aesthetics to create dresses that expressed who I was, that told stories. However, in addition to my love for design and storytelling, I am also a numbers girl. I crave the certainty that disciplines such as computer science and mathematics provide. My study in Stanford’s Computer Science track in HCI perfectly encapsulates both my interests, as I firmly believe UX Design is another vehicle to tell stories. Utilizing graphic designs, word clouds, flow charts, and data visualizations, I can create consistent and strong messages that resonate with users. In addition to my time at Stanford, I had the opportunity to explore my love for design in the workforce. At Microsoft, I designed and prototyped in-app training content to onboard new employees with MSXI applications, utilizing software such as Figma, Power BI, and WalkMe. At Ford, I designed an interactive quiz for consumers to help them determine if buying or leasing their next vehicle is right for them. Both these experiences solidified my passion for human-computer interaction.

Yet, while I knew I wanted a career in digital product design and I knew I wanted to make a positive impact, I lacked insight on what. It was through an invitation as a fellow to attend the 2021 Lime Connect Symposium – a leadership development program designed for high potential university students who happen to have all types of disabilities – that I realized I was meant to design in healthcare. From the age of 17, when I was diagnosed with the autoimmune disorder ulcerative colitis, I have had an ever-growing interest in the healthcare industry. But since I did not have a desire to pursue medicine, it did not appear to be an industry where I could make a difference. Meanwhile, through my numerous emergency room visits and hospitalizations, I noticed many gaps in the patient experience. For instance, my second week of my freshman year of college, I was rushed to the emergency room for excruciating thigh and knee pain. The medical staff spent an hour asking about my previous medical history and running the same medical tests that I had undergone less than three weeks ago in my hometown’s ER instead of attempting to relieve my pain, as they did not have access to my previous medical records. My experience was not unique; there is not a seamless way for physicians to access past records or for patients to transfer them to new hospital systems. Some other common pain points of my patient experience have been paying complicated hospital bills, coordinating with insurance, communicating my needs to physicians, and obtaining medical help outside of regular business hours; many of these were only exacerbated by the COVID-19 pandemic. Through Lime Connect and then CCYAN, I had the pleasure of meeting other disabled students and professionals who were using their past experiences, knowledge, and talent to affect positive change to make the world a more inclusive and accessible place, making me realize that I wanted to do the same.

Yes, I admit, there are some days that wish I did not have ulcerative colitis, but if I was never sick, then I would not be me. My experiences, the good, the bad, and the ugly, have shaped who I am today. I am not sure where the future will take me, but I am excited to flap my wings and hopefully make the world a more accessible place.

Featured photo by Ash Moore from Pexels

My Leadership Journey With IBD: Discovering the Leader Within Me

By Dr. Fasika Teferra (Ethiopia)

I had always loved giving back to my community. Volunteering and community service are what I had done ever since high school, and I loved making someone smile by even the smallest action. However, I had always seen myself as the benefactor and the people I served as the beneficiaries. Even though I loved seeing my impact made, we had very little in common, and the relationship never got past friendship. Although I loved the work I did, it was not something that kept me up at night or dedicated long hours. Working on improving the quality of life for IBD patients in Ethiopia however, was a totally different journey. Besides dedicating more than three years continuously, I am constantly thinking of new ideas and ways to do things differently.

During my final years of medical school, I hardly had any time for my own medical checkup let alone organize an in-person event. So, I decided that until I finish medical school, I would support one or two patients via phone.

I have never thought of myself as an innovator or problem solver. I don’t think people are born leaders, but I also have never understood how leaders were actually made. I remember the exact moment when I knew I had to step up and create an IBD space for people to get support but no idea how I would do it. I was 24 at the time, 4th year in medical school, and barely any networking experience. So, I tried to reach out to some gastroenterologists to tell them I wanted to do something to help other IBD patients. At the time, I myself did not know exactly what I wanted to do until one doctor articulated the word support group. With the realization that my ideas have one collective name, I turned to Google to see how other people lead support groups. I saw a lot of in-person meetings as part of activities which was discouraging to me. During my final years of medical school, I hardly had any time for my own medical checkup let alone organize an in-person event. So, I decided that until I finish medical school, I would support one or two patients via phone, and I notified my interest to a gastroenterologist in one of the biggest teaching hospitals in Ethiopia.

Fast forward to November 2019 when I attended a conference titled Women Leaders in Global Health. The conference came to my attention as I was googling people and projects related to what I wanted to do. It was also so convenient as it happened in Kigali, Rwanda where there were many Ethiopians living there that I had known. With the reasonable plane ticket price and securing a free place to stay, I somehow managed to get the weekend off and traveled for the conference. I remember feeling at home during the conference. There were so many experienced women in the global health field with so many accomplishments, and even though there was a gigantic gap in age and knowledge between me and most of the attendees, I felt like I belonged. I had never been exposed to such a variety of experts, and I soaked it all in. By the end of the conference, I had a clear vision of what I wanted to do.

I was confident enough in my vision, and with the diverse board of directors, I pulled in all the technical knowledge I would need to succeed.

I went back home, and in just over a month’s time, Crohn’s & Colitis Ethiopia Charitable Organization was established as a local nonprofit in Ethiopia with a vision of finding a cure for Inflammatory Bowel Diseases and a mission to improve the quality of life for patients living with IBD in Ethiopia through awareness creation, community support and much more. I had no background in Civic Society Organization leadership or anything in that lane, but I was confident enough in my vision, and with the diverse board of directors, I pulled in all the technical knowledge I would need to succeed. I am part of the community I serve now, and I intend to make my own health as well as others as optimal as I can. Whether it is in the nonprofit sector or the for-profit realm, I have learned that as long as the passion comes from the heart, anyone can make a difference in their surroundings. I have learned that there are smart ways to acquire all the years of knowledge I would need to lead properly, and that I don’t have to learn everything and know everything before I can take action. If you have an idea you think your community can benefit from, don’t doubt yourself and start with a small step. Rarely do great things happen overnight, but with consistency and persistence, anything is possible.

Working Full Time with IBD

By Carina Diaz (Texas, U.S.A.)

All I remember wanting when I was really sick was to have my own apartment and a full time job like my friends. I’ve been working a 9 to 5 job for almost three years now and have fully experienced the pros and cons. What I didn’t realize until I started was that managing my IBD is a job within itself. Balancing the two can be very exhausting.

The accessibility that remote work provides has really changed the game.

Deciding to disclose that you have IBD to your employer is a difficult and personal choice. I have been very lucky that at my current and previous jobs, I’ve felt comfortable talking about my illness. Not only that, but COVID-19 has made the world embrace remote work, and as someone who deals with fatigue regularly, this has helped me a ton. I don’t have the energy to get up every day, make breakfast, shower, and commute to work. The accessibility that remote work provides has really changed the game.

It can be tricky in an interview to gauge work culture, but I’ve found that it’s very important to ask as many questions as possible on it. Below is a list of some examples:

1. How would you describe the work environment?

2. What is your management style?

3. Which company value do you more relate to and why?

4. What are the qualities of the top performing employees?

5. What does work/life balance look like at your company?

These questions can help give a clearer picture on what the company is expecting from their employees. Do they micromanage? Or do they just care that you get the job done? Do they work more than 40 hours a week? Are the top performers workaholics? What are the benefits and perks of working there? The answers will reveal a lot.

It can be tricky in an interview to gauge work culture, but I’ve found that it’s very important to ask as many questions as possible on it.

Another perk of my current role is having unlimited PTO. If I feel like I need a day off to rest, I’m able to do so. It’s not just a nice vacation perk. Organizations like Chronically Capable are great resources to find jobs that have flexibility. It helps to start your job search with a list of “must have” qualities that you’re not willing to compromise on. Tiktok has also been a really good resource on building a resume, interview tips, and how to plan a job search.

A “must have” on my list is being open about having IBD in the interview process to gauge how it’ll be received. I mention having monthly doctor appointments, but that this wouldn’t get in the way of finishing tasks. Most companies I’ve interviewed with have said that’s no problem, and I’ve been very lucky in that regard, but not every organization will be that way. 

There are laws in place to prohibit discrimination, but unfortunately not every employer is willing to be flexible and offer appropriate accommodations. I feel very lucky to have positive experiences when joining the work force so there are good employers out there! For me, being open about my illness is a way of advocating for myself and ensuring that my needs are met.

My Leadership Journey With IBD: Just Getting Started

By Dr. Fasika Teferra (Ethiopia)

I realized I needed to bring about change, as I was also affected by it. I couldn’t standby anymore and dared to be different, a trailblazer.

The day I decided to take the big step and start something that was unknown set me up for all the things I would do in the next few years. In school and at home, I was always taught to follow a certain person or structure. That was the definition of success for most people I know, including myself. There was no room for creativity, no room for exploration. We don’t choose our universities or our majors unless we pay to go to a private college. It was the same in healthcare. Although I was equipped with the knowledge to comprehend what my doctor was saying to me, I didn’t ask any questions. I was focused on fitting in the structure that was put before me instead of doing something different. I remember the day I found out there were other Ethiopians living with IBD. I was so happy to know I was not alone, but at the same time felt more alone. I wondered why there was no one talking about this condition, educating the community, and debunking myths. As I looked deeper into the lack of community, I started to see the gaps in the system. There was no community program to teach more about the condition, and medications seemed to be scarce. I saw that lack of knowledge is not just among the general population, but also among doctors and policymakers. I realized I needed to bring about change, as I was also affected by it. I couldn’t standby anymore and dared to be different, a trailblazer.

Like I said, I was never a risk-taker. After my diagnosis, I lived in fear for the first few years. Looking back, I can almost say I was not living at all. The season where I started to think about what I can do to solve problems is where my personal growth began. I never learned it in school, and I had no one to look up to at the time. As time went by, I realized I started to see potential opportunities where others might see unsolvable problems. When I am faced with a problem, I know I could protest, take it to the media, demand change, or I could lead by example and show how it can be done differently.

My leadership journey began a year before I founded the nonprofit Crohn’s & Colitis Ethiopia. My motto had always been to think big, start small, and act now. I used the limited resources I had to create something amazing. I had been so appreciative of the limited resources available because it helped me become innovative and fixed on finding solutions. I will be sharing what my big ideas are, how small I started, and what actions I took to help me advance my mission. I am doing this in the hopes of helping someone else reading this wondering if they can dare to not just think, but start something as bold as I did.

IBD in College – Put it on your Resume!

By Isabela Hernandez (Florida, U.S.A.)

“It was a burden that I hated and equated as the worst part of myself. From the ages of 3 to 19, I treated it as this deep dark secret that I told no one about.”

I used to think that confident people were born confident, brave people born brave, and happy people born happy. An immature thought, but I believed characteristics like these were just naturally inherent. I convinced myself that I was just born to be sick with my IBD. It was a burden that I hated and equated as the worst part of myself. From the ages of 3 to 19, I treated it as this deep dark secret that I told no one about. For some reason, it was virtually impossible for me to tell friends about my UC and how it affected me. I kept everything to myself and never shared when I was feeling physically sick, or even worse, mentally drained. Luckily, I have a great family, an unrelenting support system that even when I didn’t want them to be, they were there for me. However, when someone with IBD goes to college, either newly diagnosed or a long-time patient, their assumptive world shatters. You’ve moved miles away from home with the most annoying friend you could ever think of, your IBD. At least that’s what I thought when I got to school. How am I going to deal with it? Am I going to tell people? Will they think I’m weird? What do I eat? What if I must go to the bathroom in class?

The questions were looming over me the minute I got to school. My fear overwhelmed me; it convinced me to believe that I would never find a way to integrate my UC into my new college life. I was fighting this mental battle against myself, and simultaneously seeking to get involved in any sort of organization at my school to feel more comfortable there. My university happens to be heavily research focused, and I was interested in the healthcare field. I decided to push myself out of my comfort zone and join a lab that focused on the one thing I knew the most about, IBD. It was there, in that moment that I felt empowered by my disease for the first time. I chose to openly use my IBD as a qualification, as an asset rather than a detriment. As time went on, I started to get more involved in other organizations that focused on IBD, such as this fellowship, that views one’s IBD as a contributing factor rather than a limiting one. I took a part of myself that I once hated and allowed it to become a distinctly unique piece of me. The transformative growth I underwent from concealing my IBD to using it to make me stand out was an unparalleled feeling.

“I am continuously seeking out ways in which I can intertwine IBD with my life, my work, and my interests.”

My biggest recommendation for anyone in college with IBD is to put IBD on your resume! Not literally, but in your own rhetorical way. Have it be your secret superpower that allows and pushes you to get involved in opportunities that reside in a world you so deeply understand. Work with nonprofits for IBD, get involved in research, or join a support group. Apply for scholarships for students with IBD. If you don’t happen to find any opportunities for students with IBD, start some! Start a support group or start a club exclusively for college students living with IBD. Find absolutely anything that connects you to your disease, because the minute you do this, you start to not only view your disease, but your potential, in a different light. If we as IBD patients are going to live with this forever, we might as well use it in a way that gives us the upper hand. Live a life with activities that are filled with opportunities that let you be proud to be someone with a chronic condition. Four years ago, I would have never been able to muster up the confidence to talk about my disease in the way I do. Today, the version of me that exists cannot stop talking about it. I am continuously seeking out ways in which I can intertwine IBD with my life, my work, and my interests. Every day, reaffirming that my IBD is the part of myself I am most proud of. Don’t let IBD hold you back from finding opportunities that make you feel fulfilled in a way you might’ve never known existed; use it to your advantage. It is a piece, that once embraced, can be advantageously employed in a surprisingly positive way.

Law School and IBD

By Savannah Snyder (Canada)

Undergrad is already a daunting and tiring experience - intense classes, homework, exams, socializing, self-care. It is insanely difficult to balance it all. Throw a chronic illness such as IBD into the mix, and it becomes even harder. As many of you know, IBD can take over your life and can make working towards your goals a challenge.

My undergrad experience was full of ups and downs, from being severely ill dealing with stomach aches, joint pains, fatigues, hospitalizations, doctors appointments and more. But, I’m here to remind you and what I wish I heard someone with IBD tell me, is that you can accomplish your dreams, even with IBD.

Ever since high school I wanted to be a lawyer. I dreamed of going to a top law school. I was intimidated by the process and knew it was extremely competitive. When I was diagnosed with IBD in my fourth year of university, I thought that goal might be out of reach for me. I had to withdraw from a semester of school and move back home. I thought “how would someone like me, with holes in their transcript and withdrawn classes, be accepted to law school? How will I be able to handle a rigorous program and career while simultaneously dealing with IBD?”

Looking back, I realized I was dealing with IBD my entire undergrad experience. Instead of gaining the freshman fifteen in my freshman year, I lost fifteen pounds. I knew something was wrong each day but continued to ignore my symptoms, until I was forced to face reality and was hospitalized with a severe Crohn’s Disease diagnosis. I was scared that if something was wrong with me, I wouldn’t be able to work towards my dreams. If I was ignorant regarding what I was feeling, it wouldn’t be true.

When I withdrew from school and returned to my family home, I put my body first. I slowly came to realize that I might as well try to reach my goals of becoming a law student. I began to study for the Law School Admissions Test (“LSAT”), and spent time studying in my bed when my energy levels allowed. I started my first biologic, Humira, was hopeful it would work in time, and I booked my first LSAT 2 months away. I contacted the LSAT admissions team and received accommodated “stop the clock” washroom and pain breaks for my test. As the test date crept up, it became obvious that Humira was not working. I had to increase my prednisone dosage. I was nervous, scared, and began to lose hope. I was upset that Humira wasn’t working for me and was scared about writing a test under these conditions. The increase in prednisone brought nausea, brain fog, mood swings, irritability, fatigue, and more. When my doctor told me I had to switch off of Humira, it was too late to cancel my test. So, I decided to write it anyway. I ended up receiving my first Stelara infusion the day before the test. I told myself, this test will be a practice - and that whatever happens… happens.

I am not telling you to support the hustle culture and ignore your body. I gave myself grace around my results. I told myself if I felt negative symptoms in any way while writing, I would stop and go home. But, I was able to do it.

I wrote the LSAT and did OK and then ended up writing it again the next fall. Stelara ended up being the medication that I’ve been on ever since. I applied to law school as an access student - highlighting the experiences I’ve been through and how dealing with an illness like IBD will make me a better law student and lawyer.

I returned for my last year of school and was able to receive accommodations for exams and classes. I took a smaller class load to balance self-care and healing myself along with my goal of graduating. I’m proud to say I was accepted to my dream law school and have just completed my first semester. Although I have dealt with flares and sickness this past semester, I have reached out to accommodation services and received support. I have advocated for myself and been able to reach the dreams I had before my Crohn’s diagnosis.

I promise you, if there is something you want to do, it is possible. A life with IBD is full of spontaneity - you may never know what’s next. But, all you can do is try. Put your health first, always, but never give up on your dreams.

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Calling in Sick and IBD

Hustle culture - committing your life to your job and career - has become normalized and even expected in young adults. After graduating university, many find their self worth linked to their career, earning promotions, competing with coworkers, and impressing your boss. As a twenty something year old with Inflammatory Bowel Disease, the struggle to balance work with your health is never ending. 

Those with a chronic illness understand not to take life for granted and that each day can be as unpredictable as the next, but we often forget this and get caught up in prioritizing a career over our own health and wellbeing. Calling in sick to work is inevitable, everyone has to do it at some point in their lives, whether it’s for a mental health day, the flu, or a flare-up. Yet, there are so many negative stigmas around missing work and around prioritizing your body. 

The feelings of guilt that come with calling in sick to nurture your body, whether you see your body deteriorating, know a flare is coming, or if a flare comes out of the blue, can be overwhelming. The stigma associated with hustle culture and calling in sick can feel disheartening. I have always had a hard time taking a sick day, and I always felt like I was letting my boss and coworkers down and that I wasn’t worthy of employment. Intense feelings of frustration and annoyance invaded my mind when debating whether to call in sick and these intrusive thoughts caused my body more stressors on top of being physically ill. I often remind myself that prioritizing my body is my number one job. Without my health, I wouldn’t have a job and I wouldn’t be able to participate in all the amazing experiences life has to offer. 

A helpful comparison to calling in sick is the safety instructions reviewed when boarding a flight, right before take off. The flight attendant always reviews the emergency instructions, stating that if the plane were to lose oxygen, you are always to put on your own oxygen mask before helping someone else. Putting yourself first will enable you to not only succeed at your job, but also to succeed in other aspects of life. If you were to ignore your body’s signals that you need rest, you will become more sick and risk the most important thing, your health. 

You are not weak, undeserving, or less important than your colleagues and friends because you need to call in sick more often than the average person. You are strong, resilient, and brave. We battle a viciously unpredictable disease that many do not understand. Do not let your worth be measured by whether you call in sick. I challenge you to listen to your body and honour what your body is saying, you never know how far you will fly until you respect and love yourself and with that includes respecting your body’s limits. 

Recently, I took two sick days at work due to a small flare up and my boss and coworkers were overly supportive. Although feelings of guilt surfaced when I was making this decision, the second I returned to work, everyone showed how much they cared about my wellbeing.

If you are experiencing toxicity in the workplace, contact the Human Resources department. If your company does not have a HR department, set up a meeting with your boss or manager. If you continue to be pressured to not take sick days, to put your job before your health, this may be time to look for another job and boss that cares about you and allows you to put your health first. 

On this note, being able to call in sick has undeniable privilege. Many people across the world are unable to call in sick without suffering financially or being penalized at work. Openly having these hard conversations during the hiring process or with your HR department will contribute to breaking the stigma and providing accommodations for those that are chronically ill. It’s important to speak with your boss or HR representatives regarding sick leave, paid sick days, and working from home options. Speak up to your government representatives and express the need for a handful of mandatory paid sick days across your province or state.

Thoughts on IBD in the Workplace

Please provide your most recent job history. Done. Proceed to the next page. Do you have a disability that you would voluntarily like to disclose? This can include autism, blindness, cerebral palsy, missing limbs, autoimmune conditions like lupus, gastrointestinal diseases like Crohn’s disease or IBS…I blinked, and stopped. What did I just read? 

In the past, I had always checked No, I don’t have a disability or history of disability. But now, as I start to look for Physician Assistant (PA) jobs, I can’t ignore the fact that I live with ulcerative colitis (UC) and flares can rear their ugly heads even when I take the best care of myself. I never had to sit and ponder this question before. Because of the way disabilities are viewed by most people, stigma swirls around it, leaving previously unaffected people like me unaware and uneducated about progress being made and the struggles still faced in the workplace. Disabilities are commonly viewed with negative connotations - several of my coworkers and other colleagues that live with chronic illness and/or disabilities have highlighted this and spoken powerfully against this negativity. Living with a disability doesn’t mean that you don’t have as much to offer. The people I’ve met through the chronic illness and disability community are some of the most resilient, creative leaders I know. We face our challenges and continue living and advocating against all that is physically or mentally against us - we have to draw incredible strength and grow up sooner and in ways that most others don’t. 

However, I still struggled with multiple emotions as I sat, mulling my thoughts, stuck on this page of a job application. I have never considered myself as a person “who has a disability.” I felt guilty - would those with disabilities think that I don’t support them since I don’t want to group myself with them, giving myself another label that’s often viewed as weak? Am I misrepresenting those who do have disabilities because my UC has been so mild and I am largely functional? I felt that I don’t belong in the “disability group”, but I also can’t deny that I have a chronic illness that can be disabling in a variety of ways. I definitely consider myself lucky and blessed, but I know that my UC can change throughout my life and potentially become more difficult to control. I struggled to work through these thoughts, but then thought about how my growth this year from being more involved with advocacy has given me tools to advocate for myself and to continue learning from this community. 

My options were: 

1. Yes, I have a disability, or have a history/record of having a disability

2. No, I don’t have a disability, or a history/record of having a disability

3. I don’t wish to answer

What should I choose? It had to be either #1 or #3. I couldn’t lie - I was more afraid that it would not go over well if I did get the job and had to bring up my UC later to my employer. But then, if I marked “yes”, could that jeopardize the chances of me getting interviewed or getting a job? I’ve heard awful stories about those who hid their disability from their employer because they knew it would affect them being hired or even interviewed. Luckily, I was working with another healthcare provider who had been diagnosed with lupus over the past year and was also learning how to navigate her chronic illness in the work environment. I asked her what she thought and we ended up having a candid conversation - I realized that if marking “yes” caused me to not get an interview or a job, then that job wouldn’t have been supportive enough for me anyway. Perhaps this is my stubborn streak coming through, but I hope that working in the medical field will hopefully make potential employers more understanding. However, I know that the stigma that encircles chronic illness and disability still permeates the workplace, and this fact will stay on my mind throughout my job search. 

In the end, I did mark “yes.” It is more important to me to have the chance to advocate for myself and be supported rather than hiding my diagnosis out of potential embarrassment or fear of how I would be treated because of it. Maybe this will backfire, but by being up front about my UC, I’ll feel more comfortable in my workplace. I hope that I’ll be supported enough to communicate any issues I’m having or if I do end up needing some sort of accommodation in the future. I’m very excited about applying for jobs and starting this new chapter in my life and career as a PA, but I still have much to learn about disability in the workplace. I hope by learning to navigate these waters, I can help others who may be in the same situation - questioning if they fall into the disability category or not, wondering how they should approach disclosing (or not disclosing) their condition to their employer. Since the US just hit the 30th anniversary of the Americans with Disabilities Act, I also plan to continue to educate myself and learn more about the disability community in conjunction with chronic illness. We should never have to choose between our career and our health, and I hope I can join many others who are working to make this a reality for all who are affected by chronic illness or disability. 

Advocating for Your Illness in the Workplace

A word with health advocate, Samantha Reid

The CCYAN fellows recently had a chat with IBD blogger and health advocate, Samantha Reid, to discuss her take on managing IBD in the workplace.

CCYAN Fellows Leah Clark, Erin Ard, and CCYAN founder,
Sneha Dave, video-chatting with Samantha Reid

In February of 2010, Reid received a surprise that she never anticipated for during her birthday celebration. Three days after she turned 18, she was diagnosed with Crohn’s disease and began her adult life with questions, concerns, and ultimately, an ambition to help others with her disease.

Reid has had her fair share of experiences navigating her Crohn’s disease both in college and work. Majoring in english in college and working as a communications director at her previous job, Reid gained a solid foundation in writing, communication, and outreach. Now, her job allows her to focus on health and advocacy in the professional environment. Currently a digital director for the nonprofit organization, Patients for Affordable Drugs, she strives to change policy to lower the price of prescription drugs. Patients for Affordable Drugs is a patient organization, and Reid actually started there as a patient, so her peers understood her illness and created a safe environment for her to work in. Reid understands, however, how fortunate she is to be working in a flexible environment that meets her accommodations.

“I realize the fact that I’m even able to disclose my disability to my boss and coworkers is a privilege, and not everyone has that ability.”

Reid went on to encourage those with IBD to “play it by ear” and do what one feels comfortable with when discussing their health with their boss and coworkers. Disclosure can not only be an important step in establishing a safe work environment, but it can also be used as a learning opportunity for your peers. “It allows me to be more open and it allows my supervisors to be more open as well; it creates a space for dialogue,'“ Reid explains.

Along with being the digital director, Reid also has a successful blog, Sicker Than Your Average, that she frequently shares experiences with IBD on. She explains how her presence on social media has helped her with IBD advocacy with her work. “For all of my adult working life, most of my coworkers have known about my illness by default. Whether they know because they follow me on social media and see my advocacy work or they know because I’ve had to postpone a meeting because I was sick, most of them know.” Reid expressed how important communication upfront can be when tackling IBD at work. Giving your boss and coworkers a heads-up when sensing a flare or preparing for many doctors appointments can not only give you a sense of ease with planning, but also can inform your peers about the severity on an issue. With invisible illnesses, it can be hard to truly express how important your health is when others can’t see your pain.

“When it comes to asking for accommodations, communication is key. Any workplace that would be retaliatory about me needing accommodations is NOT somewhere I would want to work.”

Sometimes IBD can feel as though it is getting in the way of performing your best at work.
It’s important to remember to do what feels comfortable to you and prioritize your health.

Communication is not only good for planning for the future, but it is good for setting up workplace accommodations. Accommodations are there to alleviate any hardships put in place because of your illness. These can include having your office desk closer to a bathroom or having options to work from home. “In my current position, I have an agreement with my boss that I can work from home every Friday. Because of my Crohn’s, I struggle with extreme fatigue, so even having one day a week where I don’t have to get dressed up and commute saves so much in terms of my energy levels,” Reid explains. She said it makes an enormous difference to her, and she feels valued at a workplace that can accommodate to her needs.

One topic that Reid discussed when advocating for yourself in the workplace is the drive to, in a sense, redeem yourself to your coworkers when you are feeling healthy. It’s understandable to feel pressure at work to perform well, especially when you feel as though you are slacking because of your health. Missing work because of appointments, hospitalizations, and just sick days in general can cause one to feel inadequate in their job performance.

“For me, when I am feeling well, I probably overcompensate at work to prove myself. No one asks that of me, but I know it’s important to gain that goodwill while I can so that when I fall into a flare, people are more understanding.”

It’s important to realize that it is okay to take time for yourself to get better. For many IBD patients, health is a number one priority, and people will be understanding. Showing your boss and your coworkers, when you are healthy, that you can do your job right and well is completely fine.

With all the advice Samantha Reid gave the CCYAN Fellows, it’s clear that she is a remarkable IBD advocate and presence in the community. Her constant dedication to IBD awareness is shown through her work and her attitude towards life. Her insight on what to do and what not to do when it comes to advocating for your illness is the workplace comes from years of experience. Making efforts to communicate effectively with your boss and peers, setting up boundaries and accommodations to meet your health needs, and putting your health first when necessary are all great ways to help those with IBD navigate their work with ease. We at CCYAN hope those in need can use this advice and pursue their career goals without feeling held back by their diseases.

The CCYAN Fellows would once again like to thank Samantha Reid for taking the time to discuss this topic, and they look forward to seeing more of what she does in the future with health advocacy.

Samantha reid

Samantha Reid is an exceptional health advocate and role model in the IBD community. Her insight on advocating for yourself in the workplace not only those with IBD great advice, but also sheds light to important issues on workplace accommodations for all. For more information on Samantha Reid and places to connect with her, check out her social media and other platforms

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