The Holiday Gatherings with IBD
By Linda Yoo from Washington, USA
Holiday gatherings can be filled with not only excitement, but also anxiety. Sometimes at holiday gatherings I spend time with those who are closest to me; however, there are times when I spend long periods of time with those I do not frequently see. Awkward conversations and unfamiliar places can be a part of the holidays. Especially with holiday travel, it can be a bit hectic and frustrating with airports having long lines and packed planes. But overall, I always enjoy spending time with friends and family. Depending on my dietary needs and IBD disease state, my requests and accommodations might change. But for the most part, I try to keep to the following tips and tricks for holiday gatherings.
My tips & tricks for holiday gatherings:
Communicate my food accommodations with the host directly and work something out, or offer to bring my own dish to the gathering.
Sometimes hosts have trouble accommodating unfamiliar dietary restrictions; it can be helpful to give examples of items I might enjoy and brainstorm with them.
Communicate with others my boundaries that keep me emotionally, physically, and mentally safe.
“I need to nap. I will meet you later for dinner.”
I do not feel the need to share any information I am not comfortable with sharing. My business is my business.
Try to prepare early, whether it is buying or wrapping gifts.
Find a place in the gathering location where I can just disappear for a bit to relax, gather my thoughts, or hide from others. Sometimes, I just need some time alone or want to escape from the constant conversations.
If I am in a flare…
I will pack my “flare bag,” which includes an extra pair of under garments, pants, deodorizer, wipes, and any medications.
Depending on the gathering, if anyone asks why I changed my pants, I either tell them what happened, or I just say I got a stain on my pants from accidentally spilling my drink-oops!
I will ask the host if I can use another/more private bathroom.
If I am traveling…
Find some activities and time at my destination to spend by myself or someone I am comfortable around.
Drinking coffee while walking around the lake
Bring something that reminds me of home.
A pillow cover that smells like home
Prepare for the holiday travel rush, and have a backup plan.
Pack any IBD medications and a “flare bag” just in case.
Especially as the holidays get closer, I find that hosts of holiday gatherings can be stressed. To help everyone prepare, it is crucial to communicate with others about any requests and needs early. I have always struggled with asking for help or accommodations because I feel like a burden. I have come to realize that my comfort and safety are paramount! From my experience, hosts of gatherings want to make sure every guest is taken care of. It is so important to remember that everyone deserves to have a safe, fun, and relaxing holiday!
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